Day 4 of 100 days of positive self-talk

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I led a powerful creative workshop today where we worked on our personal manifesto for 2020 and created visual representations of what we intend to manifest in our lives and careers in the coming months.

I love leading these workshops and because today we were a small group, I did the work too.

I had already done the drawing for day 4 of my 100 days of positive self-talk but wasn’t sure what direction I wanted to go with the writing about stretching outside my comfort zone.

I know that to reach my goals this year I will have to stretch into discomfort in a number of key areas in my life – especially related to my fitness goals. In order to get stronger and fitter I am going to have to get uncomfortable and probably muscle sore and fatigued for a few days in order to make some progress.

But what took me by surprise during the journaling in our workshop today was the realization that what I really need to do is to take more responsibility for my daily actions as well as my thoughts and beliefs. I know this consciously. I believe that I am 100% responsible for what’s happening in my life.

So when it comes to the food I am eating or the amount of exercise I commit to, why do I shirk my responsibility to care for myself?

I could tell lots of sad stories about my childhood or make up some fantastical excuses for why I can’t make the time but at the end of the day the truth is I let my inner rebellious child rule the roost too often. I get tired or overwhelmed or try to please everyone else, so when it comes to pleasing myself I often say “fu** it” I’m too tired to… make a salad, work out, go grocery shopping.

I’m not proud of this part of myself. In fact, I have a lot of shame around this aspect of myself and I don’t talk about it much. I’m done hiding and I’m done doing myself this huge disservice of not caring for myself with love and attention.

Today I focused on eating more vegies, which I love but take extra prep, which my inner rebel doesn’t want to deal with. And I spent the time to do my own creative work to get clear about what I want to experience more of and manifest in my life in 2020.

This 100 day project feels like a huge stretch outside my comfort zone too. Drawing these cartoons is challenging for me and committing to 100 days feels hard. It would be easy to let today’s post slide as I am tired after teaching all day.

Today my positive self-talk sounds something like: I completely and wholeheartedly accept responsibility for my daily self-care and I am willing to stretch outside my physical and emotional comfort zones in order to achieve the results I want.

Where do you need to stretch the edges of your comfort zone right now?

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12 Comments

  1. Judi on January 4, 2020 at 5:09 pm

    I’m done hiding too. It’s amazing in what ways we hide. And more amazing that we choose to do so.

    • minette on January 5, 2020 at 12:22 pm

      Here’s to more visibility for all of us!

  2. Anne on January 4, 2020 at 5:32 pm

    Hi Minette!
    I know that many people struggle with exercise and fitness. I was lucky to be very involved in athletics growing up and to this day. I am a retired tennis teaching pro and loved to play every day growing up. I competed and so when there was a day I didn’t feel like practicing, I visualized a match in the future, possibly an upcoming tournament and it gave me something to practice for. Before you know it, once you are moving around, you forget you didn’t want to practice originally.
    It really is like the Nike ad says, “Just Do It” and before you know it, you have been exercising for a while! You can do it. Great goals for the New Year and beyond.

    • minette on January 5, 2020 at 12:22 pm

      Thanks Anne, such a good reminder to visualize the future me – how do I want to look, feel, compete, etc. Love it.

  3. Linda on January 4, 2020 at 6:14 pm

    Hi Minette,
    The workshop does sound powerful and how lucky the attendees were to share this with you. I see this as a year of change for me too; of stepping up, stepping out and letting go!

    • minette on January 5, 2020 at 12:21 pm

      Hell yes to stepping up, stepping out and letting go! We got this Linda!

  4. Elisa on January 4, 2020 at 6:43 pm

    I am right there with you! I’m going to have to stretch out of my comfort zone when it comes to more exercise and veggies. It shouldn’t be this hard. I recently read Mel Robbins’ book The 5 Second Rule which in part says – once you think about doing something – just do it. 5-4-3-2-1 and launch yourself into going to the gym or drinking more water. It is a good thing to keep in the back of my head. We can do this!

    • minette on January 5, 2020 at 12:21 pm

      I love Mel Robbins 5 Second Rule. Hadn’t thought about applying it to healthy habits this way, great suggestion! We can do this Elisa!

  5. Doug on January 4, 2020 at 6:45 pm

    Wow. 100 days will take you to about the second week of April. Just in time for summer. Think how good you will feel and look by then.

    Remember some things just have to be done daily to live a healthy life like eating, breathing, sleeping and exercising. We cannot leave any of them out.

    Did I forget to mention blogging daily?
    – So blog on! –

    • minette on January 5, 2020 at 12:20 pm

      Yep, 100 days! And I agree about the daily habits, including the blogging! Thanks for stopping by.

  6. Valentina Cirasola on January 4, 2020 at 10:03 pm

    Congratulations on taking action. Baby steps, baby steps, baby steps, no stress.

    • minette on January 5, 2020 at 12:19 pm

      Thank you Valentina!

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