Day 6 – Overcoming Perfectionism with Positive Self-Talk
Day 6 of 100 days of positive self-talk is about overcoming perfectionism and releasing my harsh inner critic.
In today’s cartoon my character struts proudly, arms raised and says to the world, “I am perfectly imperfect.”
I’m not sure where I saw this statement first but I thought to myself, that’s brilliant. That’s how I would describe myself.
I got over perfectionism in many parts of my life a long time ago but I still struggle with some pretty intense self-judgment or as one of my clients said today, shitty self-talk.
The truth is, I am my own worst critic. It’s not what other people might say that bugs me but the unkind words I use towards myself.
Especially when it comes to my physical appearance and the weight I’ve gained over the past few years.
I realized that I have been hiding out, not showing up as much as I want or as I need to for my business because I don’t feel great in my clothes or in my body. And I haven’t been talking about it publicly because I don’t really want people’s input, advice or offers to coach me to better health. I don’t need another diet plan, I’ve tried them all. I don’t need people asking me how it’s going or telling my I look great.
I know what I need to do to make the changes and I’m doing it.I need to give myself permission to be perfectly imperfect along the way. This 100 day project is part of the process. I need an attitude adjustment towards myself.
Nothing will change until I start treating myself like my best friend.
I turn 55 next week. I want this next decade to be one where I treat myself with loving-kindness. I commit to taking myself on walks and feeding and nurturing my physical, mental and emotional selves.
I want to have the energy to do my most important work, without the judgment, fear of yet another failure and without getting it perfect. I want to have the energy and strength to start running more and dance for hours.
I have found making art and creative play to be the best ways to shift my mindset and the stories I tell about myself.
I am having so much fun creating these cartoons. And I think about how willing I am to put in the time and effort to practice. I have pages of stick figures and practice efforts. And with each drawing I sit and think about what positive affirmation or statement matches the drawing. Sometimes I come up with the statement first and then the drawing appears. Either way, this 100 days of positive self-talk has me thinking about myself and what I want to be saying to myself, instead of what I would normally say.
Today’s drawing was perfectly imperfect, too. I wasn’t super happy with it, I wanted to draw over it, trash it and try again but that’s what I have been doing my whole life in my quest for perfection. So I let it be good enough for now. And I will continue to practice talking kindly to myself and drawing more cartoons. This daily practice is my best path to overcoming procrastination.
I lovingly embrace myself with all my imperfections and foibles. Wherever I get to at the end of this journey will be perfect.
See days 1 to 5 of 100 days of positive self-talk on my blog here.