Dancing with my shadow to heal the wounded self

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Day 7 of 100 Days of Positive Self-Talk: Dancing with my Shadow

I am dancing with my shadow today and embracing her fully. I am loving her and telling her she is safe, it’s going to be okay!

Most importantly, I am bringing her into the light and allowing her to shine. 

It’s so easy to hide parts of myself and only talk about or focus on what I like or feel confident about. 

There are parts of me I love, quite a few. I am pretty darn confident in my skills and talents and work.

I am kind, creative, generous, welcoming, present and compassionate. I am also smart, graceful, funny. I have been described as an ignitor, connector and warrior. I am definitely a champion for creatives! 

Why then do I so often choose to focus on what I don’t love about myself? My belly and my thighs, the number on the scale, my lack of discipline when it comes to exercise, how I procrastinate or avoid doing paperwork… this list often feels endless and also empty. These are old stories, echoes of days past.

I am so done telling myself the same old crap. 

Through this 100 day project I am committed to rewriting and telling myself a new story. I am committed to reading and writing the good stuff. 

When the sad, negative and judgy shadow girl raises her voice, I will invite her to dance in the sunlight and remember that life is good and there is much to be grateful for.

Learning to dance with the shadow aspects of ourselves so we can fully integrate them into our story rather than alienating or allowing them to run the show has been integral to healing my own trauma and not surprisingly, it has also been integral to my success in business.

As a creative consultant and strategist for other creatives, artists and designers I have discovered that mindset is the number one block to success. It’s not strategy, time management or marketing hacks. It’s looking deeply at what is not working in our lives and getting the root of why. Often our most important work flows from fully integrating our whole selves, especially our shadow stories, into the creative work that we do.

Is is time for you to rewrite the story of your life?

I help creative entrepreneurs, artists and writers to finally break through the limiting beliefs and stories that have been stopping them from owning their artistry and confidently standing in their value so that they can build profitable, thriving and world-changing businesses. If this is you and you are ready to rewrite your story, schedule a complimentary Breakthrough to Creative Confidence consultation now.

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  1. Paul Taubman on January 7, 2020 at 1:59 pm

    There is no need to feel bad about your tummy, or the time missed at the gym, or the time spent binge-watching 4 seasons of your favorite show… Embrace it as who you are and enjoy it!

    I am happy to rub my Jelly Belly!

    • minette on January 7, 2020 at 3:29 pm

      Thanks Paul!! Here’s to our Jelly Bellies!

  2. Lily Leung on January 7, 2020 at 2:28 pm

    Yes, it’s such a good idea and project to make friends with our shadow sister. I might do the same. I tend to trash myself alot.

    • minette on January 7, 2020 at 3:28 pm

      Trashing ourselves is so harmful and habitual. It’s a journey to stopping myself from doing this. It goes faster when we support each other!

  3. Frances Cahill on January 7, 2020 at 2:39 pm

    Thank you Minette!
    My dear old girl who is fearful of failure and has muted her music button is blinking a bit in the sunlight but she will be coming out to dance. SOOOON!

    • minette on January 7, 2020 at 3:27 pm

      Woo hoo, dancing soon! Frodo will be excited to see you dancing with your shadow.

  4. Chef William on January 7, 2020 at 3:16 pm

    I sometimes feel that I spend way to much time trying to understand and change my shadow self. Now that I am retired I am using 2020 to bring everything to light and work with it or chuck it and move along. Time travels way to fast to be stuck with something from my past. Great article, thanks for sharing

    • minette on January 7, 2020 at 3:27 pm

      Thanks Chef William and I love what you said: bring it to light and work with it or chuck it!

  5. Bing on January 7, 2020 at 7:59 pm

    Hi, Minette! What a lovely post. I have to agree about our limiting beliefs that hinder us to do better. We have to go past our stagnant mindset. Cheers!

  6. Martha on January 7, 2020 at 8:36 pm

    What an adorable drawing of your shadow and a wonderful post.

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