My Amazing Life Series: The house of your dreams won’t make you happy

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I am so excited to share a wonderful guest post by Dina Overland as part of the My Amazing Life series. Learn more about this series here and about how you can submit your Amazing Life story to be featured in this blog series. This series is intended to showcase the ordinary as well as the extraordinary moments in our lives and the lessons learned along the way.

Why the house of your dreams won’t make you happy

by Dina Overland

When I sat down to write my guest blog post about how I manifested the house I’m now living in, I assumed it would be about the steps I took to bring this home into my life after my family and I decided to move from New Orleans to a small beach town on the central coast of California.

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I figured I would talk about how, for as long as I can remember, I have wanted to live by the beach, which has always been my favorite spot on this beautiful planet. Or that although I was willing and happy to live in a run-down shack if it meant I could be a 10 or 20 minute drive to the beach – I mean, a 20 minute drive to my happiest place on Earth! – a pesky inner voice kept telling me to shoot for the stars and go for the ocean view that I REALLY wanted.

Of course, I would write about how my husband and I sat down and listed the qualities we wanted in a house. That I then put the paper on the fridge next to a card with this affirmation on it – “I have the perfect living space: I see myself living in a wonderful place. It fulfills all my needs and desires. It’s in a beautiful location and at a price I can afford.”

And how we ended up buying a house with EVERYTHING on that list, including that ocean view. That I knew it was Our House the moment I stepped inside. I just knew.

But when I actually started to put pen to paper (fingers to keyboard, really), I felt blocked. Nothing came out. And then some ideas did flow, but they just weren’t right.

I’ve learned from my many years as a professional writer not to push against resistance when I just can’t seem to form a good sentence. So I went to bed and trusted that I would have some clarity the next day.

And, boy, did I.

That night, I dreamt that my husband lost his job, and I was very worried that we would have to move out of our beloved home. The dream and the emotions I felt were so palpable that when I woke and saw my husband getting ready for work, I wondered where he would be going if he didn’t have a job anymore.

After I recognized that I was no longer dreaming, I spent a few moments reflecting on my dream (nightmare?). That’s when I realized that it’s not about loving the house I’m living in (though that’s absolutely amazing). It’s about being grateful for my house while knowing that IT doesn’t directly make ME happy.

Sure, it’s lovely to adore where I spend most of my days. And that ocean view is priceless to me. But true happiness comes from within, from knowing that no matter what curveball life throws at you, you can still feel true joy and peace.

The truth is – I make myself happy. No other person, place, thing, picturesque beach town, or super cozy home can do that for me.

When I asked for clarity to write my blog post, my inner wisdom happily obliged. Speaking loudly to me through my dream, it showed me that I can love and adore my house, but I don’t need it. I’m internally happy and at peace with myself and my life, so nothing external can change that – including even losing this very house that I manifested and give thanks to every day.

I adore my home, which is the favorite house I’ve ever lived in, and am so thankful and appreciative for my ocean view and peaceful backyard. But my dream showed me that I can remain happy and peaceful even if I lose it.

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Dina Overland is a coach and mentor helping people move past their emotional pain, see the hidden gift in their experiences, and discover a happier life. You can reach her at her website, on Facebook, or Twitter.




One of the things I love most about Dina’s story is how closely it mirrors my own of moving from Texas to California, just about 90 miles south of where Dina landed. I have had that same experience of realizing that it’s not just the house or the beach but it’s the internal shifts I made through this process of manifesting my ideal life that are important. Thank you Dina for this wonderful reminder that I am responsible for my happiness.

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  1. Chara on October 3, 2014 at 1:51 pm

    Dina, I appreciate how you interweave two separate and equally real truths: 1) it’s amazing to create, attract, and enjoy something we deeply desire and enjoy; 2) even without it, we still would be happy because happiness/joy lie inside us, not in our circumstances. Beautifully expressed.

  2. Dina on October 3, 2014 at 8:36 pm

    Hi Chara! Thanks so much for the lovely words 🙂 Isn’t it amazing how at the end of the day absolutely nothing can “make” us happy unless we already feel it deep within ourselves?!

  3. Shann on October 4, 2014 at 6:17 am

    Hi Dina,
    I agree that happiness is an inside job! Thanks for this beautiful story.

  4. Nanette on October 4, 2014 at 7:00 pm

    What a fun and pertinent reminder to get clear on what really matters. Interestingly, I’m currently in a search for a home buy. Not my dream home, but a place where I can be happy for a while. Although everyone else is looking at the inside, I’m focused on what I can do with the outside (land). Granted, the trimmings are materialistic items that are potentially gone in an instant. Still, I think it’s important to consider how where ever you are impacts your quality of life during your stay.

    By the way, Minette, this is my THIRD attempt to post here with the CAPTCHA response being rejected (had a similar problem on my comment to your prior post – didn’t have the foresight to capture my comment prior then so had to recreate. Might want to consider a different spam filter solution ;-).

    • minette on October 5, 2014 at 12:31 pm

      Thanks, Nanette. I updated commentluv so let’s see if that helped. I had a couple of people complain about this and it worked fine for others…grrr.

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