relationship goals

What are your 2014 Relationship Goals?

Do you have relationship goals? When was the last time you sat down with your spouse or partner and discussed what you wanted to create or renew in your relationship? In this post, I want to talk about why you need to set relationship goals and invite you to free teleseminar where I go into more detail on great tools for reaching your goals (see below.)

I am passionate about two things in my professional career: building profitable businesses and creating lasting, loving relationships. These two topics go hand-in-hand; if your business is suffering, it puts stress on your relationships (trust me, I know this first hand) and if your home life is stressful, it’s hard to have the enthusiasm and drive needed to grow your business.

As the year gets started, my husband and I are taking a long, hard look at where we are in our lives. We have been in Santa Barbara for about a year and a half. We are feeling settled and comfortable in our new lives. Yet we realized that we have failed to re-establish some of the routines we had when we were living in Dallas – like going out on a date once a month, without the kids!

We also love to take walks together but my husband is training for his first Ironman Triathlon and his training is very time consuming – I am not complaining, I am so proud of him. (You can read his blog here.) We just have to work harder to carve out time together.

We are also doing some life planning this year – revising our wills, looking at our financial plan, all that stuff that often tends to the fall to the bottom of the to-do list because there’s no sense of urgency to it. Planning is not our forte and we know we need to be doing more of it. We need time together to talk about what we want. We will be empty nesters in 6 years, yikes! Sometimes carving out enough time feels overwhelming – in the midst of work, two busy kids, volunteer activities, fitness goals and just keeping the house going every day with clean laundry and food in the fridge!

Yet, I know that when we stick to our plan and when we spend more time together without interruptions, we are so much happier. We snuggle more, touch more, talk more and get more done. Planning may not seem romantic but it can lead to romance and to deeper connections that are the foundation of lasting, loving relationships.

Tips for setting relationship goals

Think about the many different relationships in your life and ask yourself the following questions. These would make great journal prompts if you like to journal as much as I do.

  1. Who would you like to have a better relationship with in 2014? Spouse, boss, kids, co-workers…
  2. What does a better relationship look like? Describe it in detail.
  3. Ask yourself, are you willing to be the one to make the changes and initiate the conversation? Why or why not?
  4. Are you accepting responsibility for your role in the relationship?

I know, these aren’t necessarily simple questions but they will give you a start, a focus on what matters most to many of us: our relationships.

Create an action plan to accomplish your relationship goals

Once you have honestly answered these questions, set very specific relationship goals to make your intentions for your relationships actually happen. Without action steps, we will not make progress. Maybe it is as simple as, “Don’t forget my anniversary.” Or “Invite my husband out on a date.” Or “Have an honest conversation with my boss about what’s bugging me.” Yes, I am asking you to be vulnerable, to take the risk. The payoff is huge!

Invitation to FREE Teleseminar on Tuesday, January 28 at 9pm CST

Join me and Kathy Brandon, the Happinesschick on Ready for Happiness tomorrow night at 9pm CST.

Registration is required and you can register here.

The teleseminar will be recorded and you will receive access to the replay if you cannot attend live.

Here is what you discover on the teleseminar on setting relationship goals:

  • Learn two powerful tools for creating more intimacy in your relationships
  • Learn what questions are important to ask, even if you have a great marriage
  • Learn how your relationship with yourself may be impacting your relationship with your spouse
  • Learn how to use your calendar and your goals to create more romance and spontaneity in your marriage

Come join us and jumpstart your relationships for 2014! Register now!