What is your goal setting personality?
My end-of-year inbox is crammed with tips for New Yearâ€™s goal-setting. Many are feel-good, rah-rah types of messages which are fun to read, but not very helpful. I quit setting goals years ago because I couldn’t seem to follow through for more than a week or two. The problem was that I wasn’t setting the right kinds of goals for my goal setting personality.
Goals that are most fun to set usually possess two golden qualities: They are attainableâ€¦ yet stretch you out of your comfort zone. And they should always be in alignment with your most important values. Once I realized that I needed to create goals based on my core values, everything changed. If you aren’t sure of what your core values are, here is a free assessment you can download.
Goals also offer you one priceless benefit: Each goal advances you a step further towards attaining your dream lifestyle and business.
So why do most people suck at goal-setting and goal-keeping?
Determine Your Goal-Setting Personality
There are three types of people, when it comes to goal-setting. You might find a clue to which type you are in the way goal-setting makes you feel.
- You are excited about setting new goalsâ€¦ but you become easily distractedâ€”and discouraged.
- Your stomach knots up into a dismal little lump of cold gravy when you try to set a goal. You put it off till later.
- You have iron self-discipline. You set goals, and although itâ€™s not easy for you to keep walking the straight and narrow towards them, reminding yourself of the benefits you will reap, if you stay true to your path, helps you achieve them.
Since you are reading this guide, chances are you fall somewhere within categories one and two like most people. But hereâ€™s a thought that might bring a sigh of relief no matter what goal-setting type you are: Goal-setting ought to be fun. So why isnâ€™t it? Why is it, at best, a chore, and at its worst, wishful thinkingâ€”the sort that leaves you feeling defeated in short order?
That comes because of a misconception: That your goal is the end-point of your journey. Very often, what we view as â€śgoalsâ€ť are actually steps you need to take in order to reach a goal. If you separate your journey into steps, mini-goals and end goals, or destinations, each big goal feels smaller, more manageable and more attainable.
Steps can become goals in themselvesâ€”and achieving mini-goals along the way should be fully as satisfying as achieving your big main business goal for the year.
Hereâ€™s an important point to rememberâ€¦
Steps and mini-goals are also by their nature more immediateâ€”which leaves you less likely to procrastinate and put off starting your journey. Taking it one step at a time will make goal setting feel more rewarding as you complete each step.
But whether or not you prefer to think of goals as steps (or vice versa), the important factor to realize is that the goals we set for ourselves often tend to be black and white.
Human beings are not.
We are fluid little coracles adrift in the universe, tossed and tipped by many forces and factors over which we really have very little control. That is why â€śblack-and-whiteâ€ť thinking rarely pays off.
Come back tomorrow to learn how to go with the flow when setting goals. I find that those of us who are creative don’t want to get stuck in a box and traditional business planning doesn’t work for us. That’s why we tend to fall into categories one and two above.
Spend a few minutes thinking about your goal-setting experiences. Based on past goals and their outcome, and also on what you know about yourself, which goal-setting type are you? Share in the comments below!
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